A Guide To Sending Sympathy Flowers: Send Condolences The Right Way

A Guide To Sending Sympathy Flowers: Send Condolences The Right Way

Ashley de Ste Croix Ashley de Ste Croix
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When someone experiences a loss, sending sympathy flowers is one of the most traditional and heartfelt ways to show your support to a family member. However, many people don't know what type of flowers to send or when to send them. In this blog post, we will explore all you need to know about sending sympathy flowers. We'll discuss the difference between sympathy flowers and funeral flowers, as well as the meaning behind different flower arrangements. So if you're looking for some guidance on how best to show your support during a difficult time, keep reading!

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What are sympathy flowers?

Sympathy flowers are flower arrangements that are sent to the grieving family of a loved one who has passed away. They are generally sent directly to the deceased's family, rather than to the funeral home. The idea behind sending sympathy flowers is to show your support and condolences during this difficult time to the family member.
One of the main differences between sympathy flowers and funeral flowers is that condolence flowers are not addressed to the deceased. Instead, they are sent as a thoughtful gift to the grieving family. Funeral flowers, on the other hand, are typically addressed to the deceased and sent to the funeral home.
Condolence Flowers

When should you send condolence flowers?

There is no set time frame for when sympathy flowers should be sent. However, it is generally considered best to send them within a week of the death. This way, you can show your support during those first few difficult days after a loved one has passed away. Sympathy flowers are a beautiful way to express your condolences and let your family or friends know that you are thinking of them. They can also be accompanied by a sympathy card, which can provide an additional source of comfort during this difficult time.

Is it appropriate to send flowers to a bereaved person?

Yes, it is appropriate and traditional to send flowers to the bereaved person. However, these should be sent to the funeral home rather than the family home. The funeral home will have a large room for the funeral service and all of the floral arrangements will be on display there. The family will then have the option of taking the flowers home with them after the funeral or leaving them at the funeral home. Sending flowers to the funeral home is a more respectful way to show your condolences.
Bereavement Flowers

What colour are sympathy flowers?

Pink and white are the most predominant colour of sympathy flowers in the UK. However, different colours of flowers can have different meanings. For example, a red rose represents love and respect, while a white lily symbolises purity and innocence.
It is important to choose a colour that you feel represents your relationship with the recipient, it may be helpful in some cases to ask expert florists. This makes your condolences even more thoughtful and hopefully brings a smile on the darker days of grief, below we're put together a small guide on the colour of sympathy flowers and their meaning:
As you can see there is a whole range of colourful options for sympathy flowers that are sure to make for a stunning bouquet to send. If you're still struggling to find the right colour to represent what you'd like to express try heading to one of your local florists to discuss some options and use more than one colour!

What flowers does the family buy for the deceased?

The funeral flowers are usually bought by the immediate family and friends of the deceased and the funeral home will work with the family to come up with an arrangement that is suitable. Funeral flowers are generally more expensive than sympathy flowers as they are on display for a longer period of time.
The bereavement flowers are also typically larger in size and more elaborate in design which can vary from spelling out a name such as MUM or even recreating their favourite football shirt from flowers. For many grieving families, the blooms displayed at the funeral are a tribute to their lost loved one acting as a heartfelt way of remembering them.
Funeral Flowers

Where can I buy sympathy flowers in the UK?

There are many places to buy sympathy flowers in the UK. You can purchase them online, at a local florist, or even at the supermarket. Many supermarkets now have a section dedicated to flowers and plants, so you should be able to find what you're looking for without too much trouble.
Online and in store retailers such as Marks & Spencer also sell a wide range of sympathy flowers, you can find bouquets with certain flowers like lilys, white roses or certain colours to help you express your sympathy. When buying online, you can usually choose from a range of delivery options including next-day delivery. This is a great option if you want to make sure your condolences arrive sharp and to ensure fresh sympathy flowers are delivered. You can also choose the date in which you wanted the flowers delivered, this can be a heartfelt way of showing your appreciation for your family members.
Online florists, such as Bloom and Wild have made it even easier to order condolence flowers and ensure they're fresh. Offering free delivery the very next day on their site. They've also provided a solution for when the recipient isn't home by allowing you to order a special letterbox arrangement which can be delivered without needing soemone to be home. This can be a way to express sympathy in such a sad time.
If you'd like to head down to a florist, they're always filled with beautiful flowers. This can be a more sentimental and thoughtful way of ordering flowers in an occassion like this. With their experience and knowledge they would be able to mae beautiful arrangements. A florist may have limited stock compared to an online shop but you are able to have a more personal experience and ask expert florists for their advice. You are able to ask which flowers are a sign of sympathy. You can also guarantee fresh flowers when shopping at a florist.
Fresh Sympathy Flowers

What do I write on the card that comes with my sympathy flowers?

As you can see, there are many ways to show your condolences and support for the family of the bereaved. Whether it's through a simple message or by choosing the right type of flower, your act of kindness will be appreciated. We understand that in times of grief it can be a hard to find the right words to express your apologises for someone's loss, below are some examples:
  • "With deepest sympathies and love."
  • "Thinking of you all at this difficult time."
  • "I wish I could be there with you but know that I am thinking of you all."
  • "Your mother was an amazing lady and will be deeply missed."
  • "So sorry for your loss, he was an incredible man."
These are only a few ideas from many on the types of messages you can write. You may choose to write something with a more personal message or something more fitting for your circumstances to go alongside your flower arrangement. Whatever you choose to write on the card of your sympathy flowers it is a heartfelt way to show your condolences in such a difficult time.
How does the message on the card differ from the message on funeral flowers?
Any bereavement flowers brought for the funeral should traditionally be addressed to the deceased. These flowers will be placed on or near the casket during the funeral service. The message on these flowers is usually a simple phrase such as "In Loving Memory" or "Rest in Peace". However, it can be a good idea to include a special memory between you and the deceased on the card or even a small reason as to why they were special to you. This way the cards can be gathered by the family and kept as a keepsake to remember their loved one.
Sympathy Card

What happens to the bereavement flowers after a funeral?

All the flowers after the funeral take place will be placed on the grave or taken back to the family home. Many people look for a keepsake after this as a way to remember their loved ones. Preserving your funeral flowers can be a great way to do just that, the funeral flowers can be transformed into resin flower keepsakes such as jewellery, ornaments, plates, or whatever reminds you most of your loved one. You can shop our Funeral Flowers Preservation range to create a keepsake to remember your loved one.
Funeral Flower Preservation
Thank you for reading! We hope this blog post has been helpful and provided some useful information on sending sympathy flowers. If you have any questions, don't hesitate to reach out to us. And remember, if you want to preserve your funeral flowers as a cherished memory, be sure to visit our Funeral Flower Preservation range. We hope we have helped support you in this difficult time.

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